The Sassy Apocalypse: Are Males Buying and selling Masculinity for Femininity?

By: Wet “Nation Cutie” Cates

We’re residing within the age of the Sassy Apocalypse. Sure, you learn that proper — a world the place males are buying and selling of their conventional masculinity for a comfortable, cuddly model of femininity. And I’m not simply speaking about carrying nail polish or placing on a silk gown to your late-night Zoom name. This shift goes deeper. It’s a cultural reckoning that’s altering the best way males court docket, love, and even take into consideration their place in a relationship.

However maintain on, earlier than you ship me hate mail, let’s be clear. This isn’t an assault on the comfortable, emotionally in-touch man. Removed from it. It’s a commentary on the best way conventional gender roles are blurring and whether or not males, as a complete, are doing sufficient to remain indispensable in an more and more impartial world.

For these of you who’re simply now waking up out of your social media hiatus, let me provide you with a fast rundown on the time period “Sassy Apocalypse.” Based on the City Dictionary (that trusty millennial bible), it’s outlined as:

“The chaotic and sometimes comedic breakdown of conventional gender roles, the place ladies turn out to be empowered, males turn out to be overly emotional, and everybody’s left questioning who’s in cost anymore.”

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Mainly, it’s the tip of the world as we knew it — the place the strains between who’s purported to be “in cost” and who’s purported to be “submissive” are formally blurred. And honey, we’re residing it.

Let’s face it — ladies have made monumental strides over the past decade. From taking full management of their our bodies to dismantling societal expectations of how they need to behave, the trendy lady is carving out a lane that doesn’t require a person’s approval. Ladies are unapologetically proudly owning their sexuality (and rightfully so), making their very own cash, and calling the pictures in relationships. But, amidst this wave of independence, one query lingers: Have ladies gotten too impartial? Or have males simply gotten lazy?

Cue the cringe-worthy second: males appear to be strolling round with the understanding that their place in a lady’s life is as non-obligatory as an “Add to Cart” button on a vogue web site. Living proof: Apryl Jones.

For these of you who don’t know, Apryl Jones is the mom of Omarion’s kids and, at one level, the rumored girlfriend of Tay Diggs. She’s a well-liked actuality star who’s no stranger to the social media highlight. Apryl not too long ago went dwell on Instagram and known as out a person who requested her to go to him — whereas anticipating her to pay for her personal aircraft ticket. Let that sink in. You heard me.

Now, let’s be clear — there’s no disgrace in a lady paying her personal method. However the truth that this man, in his infinite knowledge, thought this was an inexpensive request in 2024 tells you every thing you must find out about how some males suppose they’ll skip the courtship stage and dive straight right into a Netflix and Chill situation.

So what occurred? Apryl wasn’t having it. She known as out the person for his lack of effort, highlighting the truth that, as a grown lady along with her personal enterprise, the times of males anticipating ladies to chase after them, beg for consideration, or pay for their very own seat on the desk are over. And, truthfully, she’s not the one one saying it.

Let’s speak about courting — sure, that old style idea the place a person really places in some effort earlier than asking a lady to drop her guard and put money into him emotionally (and perhaps financially). Are males even courting anymore? Or have all of us simply gotten too busy swiping left and proper, hopping from one situation-ship to the subsequent?

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From the appears to be like of it, many males have forgotten what it means to “court docket” a lady. They’re too busy Netflix-ing and chilling to know the significance of exhibiting up for a date with one thing past a half-hearted “You up?” textual content at midnight. And, to make issues worse, ladies are not sitting round ready for his or her telephone to buzz. Ladies are out right here getting their very own luggage and questioning why they need to provide loyalty or exclusivity when there’s little effort on the opposite facet.

Let’s break it down: Males, the bar is low. We’re speaking “couldn’t journey over it if we tried” low. A real effort, a considerate gesture, and a transparent sense of what you need — that’s what makes a person really indispensable in 2024.

However no, it appears many males are simply cozy of their complacency. Perhaps they suppose ladies will all the time “want” them for one thing. Perhaps they’re resting on their laurels as a result of, as soon as upon a time, they have been the gatekeepers to every thing — from relationships to… properly, intercourse. However in 2024, ladies are gatekeepers to their very own happiness, success, and sexual company. If you wish to be “the person” in her life, you higher present her what makes you useful past a shared Netflix password.

Let’s get actual: If males aren’t bringing extra than simply their presence to the desk, they’re rapidly turning into out of date. Ladies don’t want a person to “save” them anymore, however they do want somebody who can add one thing to their already full lives. The times of transactional relationships based mostly on “I’ll maintain you should you maintain me” are fading quick. The brand new relationship recreation requires a person to be modern, emotionally obtainable, and, dare I say it, lively within the pursuit.

As a result of let’s face it, girls — this relationship pool is a complete mess. It’s like ingesting the poisonous sludge in The Starvation Video games. Everybody takes a sip, and abruptly, we’re all in a contest for survival. You get the prize, and, by some means, you’re purported to really feel particular about it. The boys who can’t step up? They’ll simply be swimming in that poisonous pool, hoping somebody notices their charming smile and easy speak.

It’s clear: the relationship pool has just a little little bit of toxicity in it. And truthfully, I believe everybody’s swimming in it at this level. Males, you’re going to need to get out of your emotions and put some actual effort into proving why you deserve the title of the prize. Ladies are getting their very own luggage and getting snug doing issues by themselves. So if you wish to be indispensable, you’ve acquired to do extra than simply present up trying cute. It’s 2024, and girls are successful. You both rise to the event, otherwise you’ll be left behind with all the opposite light “Netflix & Chill” proposals.

However, hey, good luck on the market. Keep secure, girls… and gents.

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